On setting hair goals…

25 May

I’ll keep it real with you, the journey to natural is NOT an easy one. But as with any other challenge in life, you can succeed by setting attainable goals.  During most of the first year of my transition, I blew my hair dry, pressed it with a flat-iron (to tame the frizz) & then curled it (to add body & style). What on earth was I thinking?!?!? I was probably thinking I could make my hair behave the way I wanted it to… or that my styling skills were so dope I could catch the “WG flow” sans relaxer. Silly rabbit… Tricks are for kids!  At some point I realized that the excessive direct heat was negating the positive effects of not relaxing my hair. Oprah calls this an “Aha! moment”… I realized that simply not perming my hair wasn’t enough & that I needed a hair goal. Enter Tracee Ellis Ross…


Check out her wig… it’s voluminous, shiny & everything a curly fro should be! Why is this an appropriate hair goal for me? Simply because Tracee’s hair texture is similar to mine (meaning this look is attainable), but the length & width of her hair are greater than mine (giving me something to strive for). Any worthwhile goal will take you outside of your comfort zone, but that’s alright… it promotes personal GROWTH! Speaking of growth, human hair grows at a rate of about half an inch per month (this is an average statistic), so obviously mine is a long-term goal. What am I doing in the short-term to make it happen?

  1. Maintaining a healthy scalp (by using tea tree oil, cleansing as often as needed & keeping it free of debris)
  2. Deep conditioning twice a month
  3. Doing protein treatments every other month (6-8 weeks)
  4. Using a hooded dryer (indirect heat at a lower temperature) instead of my blow dryer
  5. Trimming my ends every 2 months (Remember I’m slightly past a year & a half into my natural transition, so there are still a few permed ends… PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE)
  6. Limiting the use of heat tools (namely my curling iron & flat-iron) to hairwashing day
  7. Using thermal protection spray & leave-in conditioners to style my hair
  8. Using coconut oil (or shea butter) to seal my ends after hairwash

Although I have seen a tremendous improvement in the condition of my hair & reasonable length retention, I could be doing more… Wanna know what I should be doing?

  1. Attempting low manipulation hairstyles. Why? Because they limit stress & minimize breakage. BTW, roller setting is highly manipulative *WHOMP WHOMP*
  2. Keeping my hands out of my hair… Yes, I’m a curl twirler… So sue me!
  3. Throwing away my motions pomade… It gets my edges SUPER SLICK! but it’s full of synthetic crap 😦

What can I say, I’m a work in progress…

What are your hair goals & what are you doing to achieve them?



5 Responses to “On setting hair goals…”

  1. Driena May 26, 2011 at 8:49 am #

    Hmmmmmm…My hair goals:
    To achieve thicker, fuller hair
    To find a product that moisturizes my ends well
    To get at least 3 inches of growth by the end of the year
    To define my natural curl pattern
    To find a way to combat shrinkage (which happens with the smallest bit of humidity)…
    I think that’s all for now…

  2. Sham May 26, 2011 at 12:25 pm #

    Those are great goals!
    GRRR… doesn’t shrinkage make you mad?!

  3. Candii June 22, 2011 at 7:09 pm #

    Sham, (just found your site today! my favorite hair blog yet!) I love your roller sets. My hair goal is to learn how to do them as nicely as you do yours; as for now I can barely manage to put just one roller in. If I were you I wouldn’t re-roll during the week, I would just start wearing headbands, ponytails, buns to hide the flaws as the days go by which leaves you with a single day to manipulate your hair, even if it means roller setting from scratch weekly instead of every 2 weeks. Or sleep in 6-8 sponge rollers instead of all those hard ones. =)

    • Sham June 23, 2011 at 8:23 am #

      Thanks Candii! Yeah, it’s hard to leave my hair alone, but I try. Unfortunatley sponge rollers are a no-go for me, they make my hair dry & tangly 😦 But I plan to get some curformers; they seem like a happy medium between hard rollers & sponge rollers.

  4. Sham June 23, 2011 at 8:25 am #

    Oh and I’M PLEASED TO ANNOUNCE that last week I officially discontinued my use of Motions pomade… I lost my jar somewhere along the way (thank you universe). Now I’m using Oyin Burnt Sugar Pomade to keep my edges in check 🙂

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